And here's my desktop:

Xfce4.4
Thunar + thunar volman
composite - enabled
gtk-engine: Candido-Engine-Squared (u need to instal separetly) (xfce-look.org)
xfce-theme: MurrinaCandy (xfce-look.org)
icons: SnowIsh-1.0_PNG +some custom icons
audacious: skin - Dark Materia for winamp 2.x (icon from foobar - shame there's no port for lnx)
console: tilda (must have)
I've tryed X.org 7.1 + beryl but with no results. Always was downgrade or reinstall

I've tryed also a lot of custom icon themes but some were incomplite, some broken, some didn't work. SnowIsh and Vista Inspirate are best

Enlightenment E17... hmm... still have a lot o bugs and must say fancy look is not enough.
I will try also FVWM-Crystal, but today i couldn't run it... Maybe someone will help or make a package?
At the end i must admit that i like clean and eye-friendly themes, fonts and layouts
