so i checked the /etc/skel folder through thunar(root) and it turns out that all files and folders are set to the following permissions:
owner : root
Access : read/write
group : root
Access : none
others : none
I changed these to:
owner : root
Access : read/write
group : root
Access : read only
others : read only
and then skel worked. these permissions have to applied to every file and folder so its best to use the apply recursively option when the dialog box pops up.
I tried it by myself and it works. I added a new user for keeping my settings, restored from skel and all went to xfce defaults, changed the permissions and then restored from skel again, all the vl customizations are back now, including the pointer. You will lose all your own customizations though, like the wallpaper and things like that. The user concerned by this can backup his config files to restore if needed, I guess he can cp them into the proper skel location for easy restoration from VASM.