I'm afraid your post makes it somewhat hard to understand what you want, but I will try to address the vl-hot bit.
mounting drives must be done in the terninal and although vlhot auto mounts the thumb I have to open the file manager and find mnt/vlhot open several folders to get there..and umount via terminal ie:"/lib/udev/vl-hot_umount sda" seemed to work but umount /dev/sda did not..I did attempt a unmount button but it did not work a slit mounter or a mount umount via the file manage right click would be nice if possible and vlhot for flux like xfce
kinda solved? for now
If I understand you correctly, you are using fluxbox, not xfce? Well, fluxbox does not do desktop icons by itself, let alone freedesktop.org compatible ones, so there is no easy way for vl-hot to handle this. I am not familiar with fluxbox or wmdrawer, bu you chould try putting an icon for the filemanager opening to /mnt/vl-hot somewhere for easy access. For unmounting, there is a simple command to unmount every vl-hot mounted partition at once: vlh-umount (I just type vlh + tabkey in a terminal, but you could add another icon for it I suppose).