Oh lord let me see if I can remember now
some times I click stuff SO fast ..................
Okay I logged in as root first in the JWM desktop
Menu, System, VASMCC, XWindow then Display Manager, ( made sure kdm was checked )
Then went to Window Manager ( xfce was now listed ) I highlighted the xfce setting then hit okay.
Reboot ...............Now at the Session selection xfce is there to select.
I have to say the install on VL Light was fast and very easy and it is lightning fast !! from boot up to the kdm login screen is 20/25 sec ( that is fast for me)
Good Job Guys!! Oh and Gals too if there are any.